Did you ever feel like you’re afraid to take your next step because you could make a mistake? As if you’re trying to strive for perfectionism all the time?
Or did you ever think of giving up once for all because you feel unsure whether you can handle the responsibility? As if your goals and tasks frequently overwhelm you? Well, you’re not alone.
The paradox is that although we reject uncertainty, we have…
Cosmologist Stephen Hawking has been diagnosed with a motor neuron disease (MND) called ALS or amyotrophic lateral sclerosis at the age of 21.
MND is a rare, slow-processing, neurodegenerative disease that affects the motor neurons in the brain and spinal cord.
Since ALS has been gradually paralyzing him over decades, Hawking lost his ability to walk, talk, and write by using his hands.
Still, he achieved worldwide success through his breakthroughs in science and famous books like A Brief History Of Time.
How could he write so much when he wasn’t able to move?
Is this it? Why am I here? I was made for more.
At the age of 26, I hit rock bottom. Instead of asking for solutions, I questioned my whole life. I was constantly asking myself: “Is this it?”.
I wish someone would have told me to handle my sh*t instead of constantly running away from it.
Everything seemed fine from an outside view, but I had made up enough reasons to blame my life for being unfair. I felt miserable while everyone else seemed to make great progress on their goals.
I wish someone had told me life can…
Dalai Lama, a spiritual leader of Tibetan Buddhism, once famously said:
“If you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito.”
One of these little fellows in your bedroom can keep you awake all night. But not only mosquitos have this ability to spin around your head. I’m speaking of looping thoughts that result from recurring stress:
Traffic jams five days in a row; your boss, who keeps changing his mind every day; the shame of postponing today’s workout once more; another washing pile; a cheap stapler that isn’t working most of the time.
“I just have so many problems right now.”
Back in 2017, I led a toxic relationship, was exhausted, and had enough reasons to blame my life for being unfair. I felt miserable while everyone else seemed to get along great with their goals.
Only years later, I understood this life situation to be the most meaningful in my life up to that point. Reading Brianna Wiest’s book The Mountain Is You opened my eyes:
“What is the exact opposite of your fear? That’s what you want. …
When I first discovered the world of self-help back in 2017, I read lots of books about setting goals. I was ambitious, so I wrote down all my hopes, dreams, and aspirations for each area of my life. I even broke them down into specific tasks with concrete deadlines.
Twelve months later, I realized that I reached 10% of my goals. Another year later, I achieved even less. I knew I was doing something wrong, so I tried to unlearn everything I knew about setting goals. During that process, I realized that multiple patterns were holding me back. …
When was the last time you spent time with yourself? I mean doing nothing, merely being with yourself. Think about it for a moment.
Boredom is a lost art, and it’s got a negative connotation. Why? I assume it’s because we’re afraid to face our true selves. This is exactly what can happen when we’re bored.
That’s why we work longer hours, distract ourselves with social media, watch tv series, meet friends, or read books. Yes, even reading valuable books.
All these things give you something to do. Anything you do distracts you from spending time with yourself. …
You’re in a meeting while preparing for the next meeting.
Your inner wisdom screams for fresh air while you’re forcing yourself to get another task done.
You hardly fall asleep since you’re thinking about tomorrow’s deadlines.
Do you recognize yourself in these scenarios?
It feels like worrying 24/7. You’re constantly thinking about work, how to handle the massive workloads, and what you need to do the next day.
When I faced the biggest workload ever, I didn’t have any techniques to deal with stress. I was tempted to give up at first but recollected my last energy reserves. …
A few months ago, I encountered a peak in workload. To stay on track, I chose to make more time for productive work. I decreased time for writing, creative tasks, exercise, and friends and family.
What a mess. After a few days, I already felt miserable.
I lied to myself every time I said: “Next week will be less busy.” or “Tomorrow I won’t stay longer.”
The amount of work didn’t decrease. In fact, it got more. I sacrificed my fundamental happiness routines in hopes of getting more work done. Unfortunately, it led to the opposite. I got slow and…
One of those days again: You sit at your desk, want to achieve something worthwhile, but you can’t just start. An invisible force seems to hold you back.
Instead, you grab your phone, scroll a bit, and wait for inspiration that rarely comes.
If you recognize yourself in this scenario, you’re not alone. When I fell in love with writing, I wrote page after page for 1,5 years without publishing any. I felt more comfortable in my bubble than exposing my writing to the world. Eventually, I allowed my irrational fears to stop me from writing.
Back then, reading the…